Hi all!

I am enjoying Attachment parenting with my 13 week old immensely. She sleeps between us, gets carried everywhere, and is Breastfed. It's great.

When she cries, the only thing that will calm her is into mummy's sling (only occasionally daddys). I thought it was great we HAD something to calm her.

Over the last 2 weeks though she has been going hysterical when I am not there. She can have great fun for a while, and then suddenly, bam. Panic.
This is when she is with my family, and the say even the sight if a bottle will start this off! When they finally call me in desperation, I can calm her and give her the bottle!!

She really shouldn't be strange with them, as we lived with them for 10 of her 13 weeks, and see them almost every day, and my mum has never before now met a baby she can't calm. She even used the sling herself yesterday but no good!

Anyway the point is, she blames Attachment Parenting. Probably because of the word Attachment. She is trying to persuade me to stop using the sling at the very least.

Now I have no intention of stopping. I like it so much I am in the process of setting up an AP shop right now!

However, it would make life SO much easier if I could tell her it has happened others at this age and passes? Please tell me it does. I desperately need an evening away without waiting to be called back in a panic!! It's a good thing I am only 4 mins drive away!!

Has anyone experienced this with a 3 mth old?

Dear Azharia,you HAVE something to calm her!IT'S YOU!She was inside you for 9 months and it's normal she cries if she know she's without you ('cause she understand it!).Yes,your family origin is not strange for you,but she have to know them.She know you from 12 months !Every child is different,don't worry about how is your child even if your mother never met one like your.It's her with her personality.Her way to be.
Ap is not a recipe,or a style ,is a scientific research from Bowlby.We have difficulties to do natural things about parenting 'cause we've missed them!Your mother loves you,simply she thinks to suggest you a "better way",like she have learned when she was mother for the first time.

Maybe you can go a evening away with your child too and take another time of the day to make other relaxing things you love to.Generally the evening is the moment where children need us (mother) more than eveyone else:)

Hugs,Chiara with Mattia 7,Marta 6 and Tommy 4