I spoke to a friend today who is going back to work next week.
Her DH will be looking after the 2 children as he works from home.
Out of interest she went to see a creche who were extremely unimpressed that she had not attached her child to an object.
I can understand where this would mean that the little one would feel secure due to the presence of an object as the mother would not be present but i feel so sad that this is the practice.

Hi!
....yes,this means we have to work hard to improve our "vision" to be an attachment parent.
I understand when my children try to take an object to creche on morning,this could be a message to be more with them,this means a little story before bed,or massage,or a little moment with the child who needs my attention.
Chiara.

I often wonder where this need to detach and separate mother (parent) and child in our society comes from.
As you're all familiar with, the practice of AP is often met with looks of sheer horror and 'well meaning' comments about the damage this must do to the future independence of our children.

The effect of this forced separation always strikes me the most when I drop off my DD to playschool (and she casually strolls in and waves goodbye with her back to me )and I see how distressed some of their parents in the cloakroom are as they are trying to wrestle bottles/soothers/cuddlies away from their crying nearly 4-year olds.
Yes, AP is truly detrimental to children's development

Thats so true.
Mine are so self assured and independant. Even DS4 who suffers with a mild anxiety disorder.
My DH, who suffers hugely himself, says he can see the huge benefits of AP on a child predisposed to anxiety.

I'm glad this was posted...I didn't think anyone else found the forced attachment to inanimate objects as odd. When my DD was 6 mnths old my MIL&SIL kept asking me if DD was "attached" to anything...and then I noticed that they kept giving her objects all the time and then telling me "Don't worry- she will find something to calm her". As though she needed to be "calmed". i found it so weird.
One day I just had a revelation (that clearly all you lovely ladies have had before me, lol!) that because DD is comforted by the breast she doesnt need to be attached to any such object. Nothing has ever made me feel so..i dont know..important? It was great feeling. Like I was really doing everything right!

I'm glad this was posted...I didn't think anyone else found the forced attachment to inanimate objects as odd. When my DD was 6 mnths old my MIL&SIL kept asking me if DD was "attached" to anything...and then I noticed that they kept giving her objects all the time and then telling me "Don't worry- she will find something to calm her". As though she needed to be "calmed". i found it so weird.
One day I just had a revelation (that clearly all you lovely ladies have had before me, lol!) that because DD is comforted by the breast she doesnt need to be attached to any such object. Nothing has ever made me feel so..i dont know..important? It was great feeling. Like I was really doing everything right!

Haha, I can só recognize this! DD is now 17 months old and co-sleeping, though I'm not breastfeeding anymore. At first the remarks that it was so extraordinary that she didn't need a soother or wasn't sucking her thumb made me a bit uncomfortable, but later I realised she didn't need any fake comforter, since she has always had me or DH. And now, when asked what her special nighttime cuddly is, I just answer "That would be me, I suppose..."