Since I became a mother my relationship with my own mother has come to the front of my life , always in a negative light, what she did wrong, whatever she didn’t do right and how that has affected my life…
Recently I joined another forum and I came across the nicest post ever, a woman looking for a present to her mother, the woman explained that the previous year she gave her mother a list of the good things the mother had done for her as a child.
That got me thinking… Could you tell me three things that you are grateful for to your mother?
Mine are:
1-My First Communion party, six kids under 8, little money, and she did so much work, and every body came to the house and ate there and I felt so good, no communion dress, no big presents, but I felt the star of the show.
2- The hug she gave me when I broke my two front teeth, age 10
3-Came to me when I had babies and cleaned, ironed, cooked ……and mothered me.
And I think I could count a few more.
It was not all wrong, you see.!!!

Am thinking about this one.

Being with me for the births of my first two sons.

Coming over to Ireland from South Africa to help out when we had our fifth child.

Giving me the opportunity to travel to so many different places whilst growing up.

I was adopted by the most wonderful loving parents anyone could ever wish for. Growing up many of my friends would seek refuge in my home when things were a war zone in theirs. My adopted mam is still so supportive and loving I am embarassed that I cant be as supportive back to her now. (She has parkinsons but lives several hours away from me.) So I suppose my three things are:
1: to my birth mother: a life - as being born an unwanted baby in the early 70s I could easily have been aborted.
2: To my adopted mother: a happy stable loving home
3: continued support long after she is legally obliged to provide it.

ah shucks, yer makin me cry now!

Scubachick, that is so nice.

Thats lovely Scubachick.

1. My mother attachment-parented me in the 70's, instilling parenting values in me.
2.She gave me 2 brothers who mean the world to me.
3.She loves my children unconditionally and in a way that they can feel it.

It's almost Mother's Day. I think this list idea would make a nice gift for her, too.

This is an interesting thread, I will have to think about it as my relationship with my mum is very difficult.
Will come back to it later.

1. Life
2. Being an independent thinker.
3. Having the nerve to fight anyone alive for the sake of my kids.

1. Always considered me, for good or ill, in every decision she made.
2. Instilled self-worth in me.
3. Acknowledging me as a "great mother" even though my parenting decisions are the polar opposite of all of the ones she made.